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Empty Nest

March 21, 2012

Maine, New Hampshire, kites, ocean, Seacoast, beach, photography, iPhoneography




















She thought she would be so clever and smart to prepare for this time. She thought with lots of thinking, researching, and digging deep that this time might not be so painful. She thought she could maybe avert the emptiness (empty nest) inside she didn’t want to feel, knowing it would hurt so much.. So, she thought, she researched, and she dug deep, very deep, in fact….and still the emptiness is starting to be felt. The ache of this end to this chapter in motherhood, this chapter in life. The feelings that she too needs to move on in her world to the next chapter. It’s almost here and the feelings and the tears are starting to bubble up and flow over..

It’s the natural progression of time, of family, of motherhood and really in the end, she would not want it any other way. She has actively and methodically prepared these girls for years to spread their wings, to take flight, and now its time to watch them soar. She also is starting to feel the flapping of her wings, the wind pushing at her back, and the lightness of responsibilities giving her the boost to take flight.  She can sit safely, quietly in the empty nest, or she can push herself over the edge of the nest and see if she can fly again.  She may land in the branches, she may twirl to the ground, but she will eventually re-learn this process of flying on her own, and the freedom and the wind in her face will feel warm and alive.

19 Comments leave one →
  1. March 21, 2012 9:33 am

    Beautiful picture. This beach is incredible!!! Heading back there right now!!

  2. Louise permalink
    March 21, 2012 10:28 am

    Great shot Nanette… This beach is like the only not far from my house… I will post you a photo…

  3. March 21, 2012 10:32 am

    I still get the “empty nest” feeling every time he comes home and goes back to school. I, too, thought I was better prepared – I was wrong. They are so deeply entwined in our hearts, they will always be missed. But, they will always be entwined in our hearts – forever – because we love them! Nice writing, Nanette – it brought those emotions to the surface again – thank you!

  4. March 21, 2012 4:15 pm

    I have been there and am still there at times. Once a mother, always a mother… But I will say that the ache fades with seeing the happiness and confidence of the children out exploring their new worlds. And yes, once things settle into a new routine, the inner stirrings start calling and you are ready for your own adventures and getting reacquainted with your own dreams and eager to pursue new ones. Hurrah to jumping out of the nest!

  5. Paula permalink
    March 21, 2012 6:04 pm

    Well, I felt your emotions so much it brought tears to my eyes and the children are truly the joys of our lives, and yes, even though we know this is what we prepared for them to do, grow wings and fly, it still is never an easy thing to actually let them go at first. Just as birds do, that first flight might not be so graceful but once they start souring, our hearts will sour along with them …right?! One thing you can surely count on~ is their love for you…it will always been in all your hearts.
    Love the kite picture……fly sweet children…fly and enjoy the ride.

  6. March 22, 2012 8:43 am

    the image and the words go together so well; you have taken me on your journey a little ways, and i know, for certain, that you are brave enough to soar!

  7. March 22, 2012 10:28 am

    Beautifully photographed and written!

  8. Elizabeth Auch permalink
    March 23, 2012 4:42 am

    Reading this brought tears to my eyes. You are such a dedicated, thoughtful and inspiring mother. I can’t tell you how many times I have used your advise (and exact words) that you have shared with me on how to raise confident, creative and caring children. I have been so fortunate to have you as a mentor in life. Thank you for shaping my parenting experience in such a positive way.

  9. March 23, 2012 9:25 am

    Elizabeth, I appreciate your comment more than words can say…now you have got me in tears. Love you and am so happy we had all those many, many hours together talking about our lives, our children and our dreams.. xo

  10. March 23, 2012 7:21 pm

    My kids are only 3 and 7 but I can imagine how difficult this phase of life must be. I hope you soar and adjust to this period in your life with ease and may the next chapter bring you much fulfillment. Thanks for sharing this wonderful post.

  11. March 23, 2012 9:11 pm

    Thank you, Vanessa…every stage of motherhood has its joys and challenges. Have fun with your little ones! xo

  12. March 28, 2012 10:46 pm

    Extraordinary. Lovely, made my eyes well up. I have boys and know this emptiness is something I will have to endure in the not too distant future. Thank you for sharing your heart.

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